I cannot get over Trent Bailey‘s photos of Lauren and Jason’s wedding – autumn in New York never looked so romantic! The glow of candlelight, the bride’s jaw-dropping ensemble, the intimate interfaith ceremony… beautiful!
“Our ceremony was by far the best part of our day. It was so intimate – dimly lit, with only the warm glow of candles and the string light curtain. Our family and friends tell me that Jason shed tears (which is not like him at all!) when he first saw me walking down the aisle. There was a moment during our vows where I had to collect myself, too. It was a lot of raw emotion. The true love we have for one another was captured under our chuppah that day – it just felt magical. It’s hard to articulate just how special it was. I felt extremely present – like everyone melted away and it was just Jason and me promising the rest of our lives to one another. I hate to be such a sap, but like our love, the memories of our ceremony won’t ever fade.”
Your ceremony in three words. Intimate, Natural, and True.
How did you go about planning your wedding ceremony? It was important to us to incorporate both Jewish and Catholic traditions. We had a difficult time finding officiants who would share the stage. The wedding was getting closer and closer and we felt we were going to have to go with a non-denominational ceremony, but we finally made a connection through a friend. We had coffee at a diner in Queens with Rabbi Berman, and after chatting for a couple of hours, we knew we had found what we were looking for. He’s conducted interfaith wedding ceremonies with his friend, Father Brennan, for years. They made our ceremony feel extremely special. Both Rabbi Berman and Father Brennan made suggestions of readings and overall order of ceremonies.
Is there anything else that you’d like to share about your wedding ceremony? We also had a short ketubah/marriage certificate signing in the speakeasy prior to our ceremony. It was special because Jason’s 94-year-old grandmother signed our ketubuh, as well as Jason’s brother, and two of our best friends signed our marriage certificate. After the ceremony, we followed the Jewish tradition of yichud – spending time alone together in the speakeasy.
Would you be willing to share the order of your wedding ceremony?
Processional: “Hallelujah” by Jeff Buckley, “Crazy Love” by Van Morrison
Reading: 1 Corinthians 12.31 – 13.8
Words of Encouragement
Exchange of Vows
Blessing of Rings
Blessing over Wine
Words of Encouragement
Three Fold Blessing
Breaking of Glass
Kiss of Love
Recessional: “Let’s Stay Together” by Al Green
“When we first started to think about venue options, I was drawn to the whole barn trend that was happening. I knew I wanted a blank slate, something different, and something undone. A friend of ours had walked by The Green Building – at the time it was barely a wedding venue at all – and suggested we check it out. It was the only venue we visited and we knew right away it was the place. The floor hadn’t even been painted yet and there was just an old leather couch in the speakeasy, but the owner painted his vision for us. We trusted him and over the next year and a half The Green Building blossomed into the fabulous space that it is today. There was something quite lovely about getting married in our own neighborhood. I stopped by The Green Building often throughout our engagement and got to know all of the familiar faces. The space and the wonderful people behind it played a pivotal role in making our wedding what it became.”
What inspired you when you were planning your wedding? I wanted to weave black and white throughout the event. Throughout the planning process, I realized that less really is always more. It was important that our wedding was simple, elegant, and cohesive.
Did you incorporate and DIY elements? We handmade around 500 glass magnets for favors. I originally saw the idea on Pinterest. Swiss Cottage Designs whipped us up four classic patterns in black and ivory. It was a lot of trial and error!
What was the best advice you received as a bride? To just let go and enjoy the experience with my husband. It becomes such a whirlwind and it’s hard to stick to that advice. I woke up the morning after our wedding thinking, Was so and so there? Did I talk to him? Did we do this? Did that happen the way it was supposed to? – and none of that is important. What’s important is letting go of all the planning and responsibilities and just basking in love of your new husband and all of your friends and family.
Do you have any budget tips for other brides? Spend the money on a talented stationer, a superb photographer, a great band, and delicious food. We felt those things were the most important! With that being said, there are ways to cut corners in any area of wedding planning. Some examples: you can do a split plate instead of having two options; don’t have music at the cocktail hour, because trust me, no one even hears it playing; buy your own candles for your florist; only print enough programs for every other guest; don’t letterpress your entire invitation suite; don’t spend extra on fancy napkins or linens – no one knows the difference; go with a small kraft bag or box for hotel room gift bags; go for a small cake to cut and do the rest like a dessert bar. The list of corners to cut is truly endless – get creative!