Every time I tried to work on this week’s link round-up, I kept coming back to this link in my bookmarks:

My heart hurts so much over the death of Robin Williams. It feels impossible to reconcile the vibrant, hilarious man on the screen with the news of his suicide. I think that as much as our collective sadness is about mourning his loss, it’s also about the devastating realization that someone who gave the world so much brilliance and laughter could find himself in such darkness.

Depression is not a case of the blues. It’s not a character flaw or a personal failing; it’s a sickness. It’s an overwhelming loneliness and emptiness and hopelessness, and it can feel like you’ll never escape it, because it feels like it is you. Five years ago I wrote a brief post about my own struggle with depression. And then I never mentioned it again on the blog or anywhere else online, because I’m not big on sharing my personal life in a public space, and this doesn’t really feel like the place for it anyway. But I’m believing more and more that when we can, depression is something we should talk about. Because when you’re in the midst of it, when it feels like the walls are closing in around you, it’s next to impossible to talk about it. And because for the rest of the world, it’s very, very hard to understand. So when you can put words to it, it’s worth it to do so. (Allie gives one of the best explanations of depression I’ve ever read over on Hyperbole and a Half.)

I don’t know that one can make sense of a tragedy like this. But I hope that maybe by talking about it, by shining some light on it, we can find the understanding to offer our brothers and sisters who are suffering, more love, kindness, and empathy in their fight against depression; maybe by talking about it a little more, those who are struggling might find the voice to ask for help.

Please, if you or someone you know is hurting, ask for help.

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Two years ago today, I married the love of my life. I would say he’s the man of my dreams, but to be honest, my dreams of the man I would one day marry never came close to who he is in reality. He makes my world bigger and cozier all at the same time. He encourages me to always be a better version of myself without ever making me feel like I’m not enough as I am. He gets me all twitterpated just by walking in the door. I love you Ryan Grady – Happy Anniversary to us!

 

You can see an index of our wedding posts right here, or just scroll through them all at once right here.

 

Photo by Elizabeth Messina.

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A few weeks ago my little sister, Lora (aka Lora Fedora), came home from France after a year away, and she had a sparkly new accessory with her… I figured after letting her keep it to herself for a little while, I could finally embarrass her good and proper by sending my best wishes across the internet: Lora’s engaged!!!

In her last week in Paris, Lora’s boyfriend, Grant, flew out for a visit, and not only did he propose on the trip, but he managed to get it on camera! They had been taking lots of self-timer shots around Paris, so I’m sure my sister didn’t suspect a thing when they set up the camera for a pic in front of Marie Antoinette’s hamlet… until Grant dropped to one knee! Needless to say, she said yes!

Sorry for all the exclamation points – I’m just so excited for my baby sister to marry such a wonderful guy. She’s my best friend, and she deserves all the happiness in the world. Congratulations Lora and Grant! We love you!

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I’m headed to Alt! My bags are packed with lots of really fun outfits (read: black, black and more black), and since I’m probably the only blogger on the planet who has yet to own an iPad, I’ve got a good book to read on the plane, and a brand clean notebook so I can write down all the brilliant things folks have to say.

If you’ll be at Alt too, stop by my panel tomorrow morning where I’ll be speaking about work/life balance (and hopefully learning how to get even better at it from my fellow panelists!). And if you won’t be there this year but want to hear about what’s going on, my twitter feed is certain to be saturated with #altsummit tweets.

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