Non-Religious Wedding Ceremony Outline :: Anne & Spencer

bride-groom-kissPhoto by Jude Mooney

SEE ANNE & SPENCER’S WEDDING RIGHT HERE.

PRELUDE
Music played as guests arrive and are seated.

PROCESSIONAL
Anne and Spencer (along with the maiden of honor and best man) gather with Fr. Vaughan at the spot chosen for the wedding ceremony.

THE PRESENTATION
Anne’s parents present her hand in Marriage to Spencer

WELCOME
Fr. Vaughan welcomes everyone and shares some remarks with the bride and groom.

Family and Friends of the Anne and Spencer – welcome to their wedding ceremony this evening at Bloomfield Farm in beautiful northern California.

In this place, we take ourselves out of the usual routines of daily living to witness a unique moment in the lives of Anne and Spencer.

Today they join their lives in the union of marriage. To all their guests, they are happy to share this moment with you. They have known most of you for several years. You watched them grow up in Bellevue and Sacramento, you went to school with them at USD, or found friendship in San Francisco. Because you are the ones who have supported them and known them so well, it is only fitting that you are the ones to share this once-in-a-lifetime moment with the.

Anne and Spencer are pleased to have their parents in the front row…close to them for the ceremony just as they have been close to them their entire lives. They thank you for providing a life full of endless opportunities, love, and possibly more importantly, patience.

A marriage, as most of us understand it, is a voluntary and full commitment. It is made in the deepest sense to the exclusion of all others, and it is entered into with the desire and hope that it will last for life. Before you declare your vows to one another, I want to hear you confirm that it is indeed your intention to be married.

DECLARATION OF INTENT

Officiant: Do you Spencer Byron McCluskey; take Anne Hudson Ramsey, to be your beloved spouse, knowing in your heart that you will be a faithful friend, and a loving companion? On this special day, in the presence of family and friends as witnesses, do you give your sacred vow that you will always be with Jamie and support her, in times of sickness and in times of health, in times of joy and in times of sorrow? Do you promise to love her completely, to console and comfort her during difficult times, to laugh with her and to grieve with her, to share with her life’s simplest but most enduring pleasures, to be truthful and honest with her, and to cherish her, for as long as you both shall live?
Spencer: I do.

Officiant: Do you Anne Hudson Ramsey; take Spencer Byron McCluskey, to be your beloved spouse, knowing in your heart that you will be a faithful friend, and a loving companion? On this special day, in the presence of family and friends as witnesses, do you give your sacred vow that you will always be with Skyler and support him, in times of sickness and in times of health, in times of joy and in times of sorrow? Do you promise to love him completely, to console and comfort him during difficult times, to laugh with him and to grieve with him, to share with him life’s simplest but most enduring pleasures, to be truthful and honest with him, and to cherish him, for as long as you both shall live?
Anne: I do.

ACCLAMATION OF SUPPORT
Your family and friends acknowledge their support for the two of you as you begin your life together as husband and wife.

Fr. Vaughan: Will all of you who witness the promises that Anne and Spencer make to each other pledge to do all in your power to uphold and support them in their marriage?

People: We Will

A wedding day is often a day when couples miss family members no longer with them or are unable to attend. For the Anne and Spencer, there are family members whose memories they hold dear. Let us please take a moment to appreciate these loved ones with us here in our hearts.

THE MARRIAGE

EXCHANGE OF VOWS

And now, I invite Anne and Spencer to exchange their wedding vows. Each of you will share the vows that you have written for each other and then I have you repeat traditional vows after me.

Fr. Vaughan: Spencer, repeat after me. I Spencer, take you Anne, to be my wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until we are parted by death. This is my solemn vow.

Fr. Vaughan: Anne, repeat after me. I Anne, take you Spencer, to be my husband, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until we are parted by death.

This is my solemn vow.

EXCHANGE OF RINGS

Fr. Vaughan: Since the beginning of time, the circle has stood as a symbol of completeness. The rings that will now be exchanged are a never ending circle symbolizing a commitment of the love that

Anne and Spencer have for each other which are also never ending. And may they always wear these rings with abiding love and deep faith in each other.

Fr. Vaughan: Spencer, placing this ring on Anne’s finger, repeat these words: Anne, I give you this ring, as a symbol of my vow, and with all that I am, and all that I have, I honor you.

Fr. Vaughan: Anne, placing this ring on Spencer’s finger, repeat these words: Spencer, I give you this ring, as a symbol of my vow, and with all that I am, and all that I have, I honor you.

As the writer Richard Bach has so beautifully stated, “A soul mate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we’re pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we’re safe in our own paradise. Our soul mate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction… Our soul mate is the one who makes life come to life.”

We are each still and always growing, and when we marry, we promise not only our own growth, but also our willingness to witness and withstand the ongoing growth of another human being. That is because in marrying we promise to love not only as we feel right now, but also as we intend to feel. In marriage we say not only, “I love you today,” but also, “I promise to love you tomorrow, the next day, and always.”

RECOGNITION OF THE MOTHERS

Fr. Vaughan: In ancient times, the mother of the bride and the mother of the groom would bless the union in some symbolic manner. In so doing, the mother of the bride would welcome her new son and the mother of the groom would welcome her new daughter. As a sign of their recognition of their respective mothers, Anne and Spencer honor them with these flower leis or (some other token).

Music can be played during this brief presentation.

BLESSING OF THE MARRIAGE

Fr. Vaughan: Anne and Spencer, you are two persons, but there is only one life before you. May beauty surround you both in the journey ahead and through all the years to come. May happiness be your companion and your days together be good and long upon the earth.

THE PRONOUNCEMENT

Now that Anne and Spencer have given themselves to each other by solemn vows, with the joining of hands and the giving and receiving of rings, I pronounce that they are husband and wife. As these two have now been joined together, let no one separate them.

THE KISS

Anne and Spencer greet each other with a Kiss

PRESENTATION OF THE BRIDE & GROOM
Fr. Vaughan presents Anne and Spencer as Husband and Wife

 

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