What are you all up to this weekend? Ryan’s parents are here for a visit and we’re celebrating his dad’s birthday on Saturday, then Sunday we’re taking Caroline to the pumpkin patch followed by lunch at the Petaluma Pie Company. I’m also hoping I can convince Ryan’s mom to watch little girl for a bit so I can take myself out for a pedicure… (thankfully grandmas don’t need much convincing!).
Lynn and Martin have a wonderfully romantic story of the night they met, on a dark, rainy night in the countryside of Ireland. Lynn had just moved to Ireland from Canada, and Martin was a musician with a wink for her in the corner of a cozy little pub.
Lynn tells the story of that first night they met, shortly after she moved to Ireland: “I decided to explore the country a bit, and someone in [the tourism board] told me to go to Doolin, which I’d never heard of. So off I went to Doolin, a tiny village on the west coast of Clare that is renowned for Irish music. After several days of being buffeted by wind and rain, all on my own, I decided to head to the pub farthest from my B&B since there was a chance some tourists I had met would be there. I was dying to talk to somebody! I headed out into the blustery night and passed a cozy looking pub which almost tempted me to stop, but I was intent on finding someone to chat with.
“On I went, into the driving rain, until I paused. Madness! I decided to turn and just go back to the first pub. After about 10 steps in the other direction, I thought, This is not so bad – I may as well go on to farthest pub. So back I turned. After about 10 more steps the realization dawned that I would be coming back in this weather – or worse – at about midnight – so again, I turned. I’m not sure how many times I went one way, then the other. Eventually I decided sensibly on the first pub and was soon ensconced with pint in hand. At that moment I saw an interesting looking man enter. He passed me, saying howya, then headed to the musicians corner. I moved to where I could see the musicians yet was somehow still shocked when he looked over and gave me a wink and a huge smile.”
Doesn’t that sound like a scene from a movie?! The two were married 16 years later and have settled in Dublin, where they live with their two kids. Both Lynn and Martin both work partly from home, and have learned what works in their home so they can: “If we didn’t fully support each other, neither would get anything done! Sometimes we’re both working at home, sometimes one of us is away; both situations inevitably need one of us to be there for the other, especially where the kids/household is involved. I was able to write a novel because Martin took care of our daughter during the mornings for several years; I take on everything whenever he’s away on tour. My part time job is easier because he does the school runs when I’m in work. And because we’re both often trying to create in the same physical space, we try to give each other the room to do that.”
Lynn says they have always tried to figure out ways to work as a team, both in parenting and in major house renovations. “Often the best times we have together are when we’re stuck in doing some project, or cycling together. After Martin bought the house, we put in a maple floor that was salvaged from a postal sorting office in Dublin. It was a huge project as the wood needed to be sorted, cleaned, everything, and we were doing the entire ground floor, in our free time. We established a system where each was doing what we were best at, and eventually got the floor done! Except I was in Canada when Martin actually finished it. When I came back, he showed me how he had left some nails exposed near the wall, so we could hammer the last ones in together. I thought it was an incredibly romantic gesture.”
As for advice, Lynn suggests married couples make sure they spend quality time together. “Really make the effort to have time together – even better if it’s something fun! – but a quiet cup of tea in the evening does wonders as well.”
Martin sums up his feelings for Lynn and their marriage very sweetly, “Lynn is not just my wife or the other half of the management team that runs our family, she is my best friend and the person I want to hang out with more than anyone else in the world.”
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If you remember my wedding, you know I’m a big fan of restaurant venues, so I’m loving this fun celebration from photographer Lindsay Madden! When the first few venues they visited didn’t fit the bill, Lindsay and Max turned to wedding blogs for something different, and stumbled upon My Moon…
Says the bride, “Neither of us really had any idea of what kind of wedding we wanted to have. From the beginning, it was more about what we didn’t want: didn’t want a big wedding, didn’t want a wedding hall, didn’t want a traditional ceremony, etc. When it came down to deciding what we did want, we both knew that we really just wanted to throw a fun party, so we took inspiration from many of our friends and their experiences at weddings (what they liked, what they didn’t like). Most of the details were purely just because we wanted them, like the tasty macarons instead of a cake and including Jewish traditions, such as the hora, even though our ceremony was largely non-denominational.”
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Why did you choose this location for your wedding? When we first started looking for wedding venues, we assumed we would get married outside of the city. After seeing a few suburban venues that screamed “wedding hall,” we knew we wanted something different and that we really, really wanted a New York wedding after all. We started using wedding blogs to find potential venues, and one day, we happened to see photos of a wedding at My Moon. We visited one night for dinner in December and immediately put our deposit down for their last available Saturday in 2013. By June, the space was even more amazing than the day we initially booked it. The garden was in full bloom with lush greenery and beautiful flowers, and we knew we had made the right choice. On top of that, the food was amazing, and their Events Manager was so easy to work with. It was just perfect.
What was your favorite moment or part of the day? One of our favorite moments was an unexpected toast from Lindsay’s dad. He wrote a 7-page speech the morning of the wedding and delivered it flawlessly. It had the whole room laughing and crying, and the rest of the guests were telling him how great it was all night. A close second to that is Max’s 7 year old brother, Daniel, who dominated the dance floor with some pretty impressive dance moves. He totally stole the show!
What was the best advice you received as a bride? It’s completely cliche, but don’t sweat the small stuff. For months, I spent time worrying about how the flowers were going to look since I was letting the florist pick seasonal flowers. They weren’t perfect on the big day, and you know what, nobody cared! Spend your time worrying about the big stuff.
What advice do you have for other brides? Worry less. Throughout the entire planning process, I had “guilty bride syndrome” and felt like I was imposing a lot of stress on my friends and family since many had to travel to New York. I worried about where people would stay, how they would get around, what they would do in their “down-time,” and in the end, everyone just figured it out. In general, brides worry about a lot of things that they don’t need to. So, worry less, and enjoy more!
Do you have any budget tips for other brides? Budgeting was one of the hardest parts of planning a NYC wedding. Right from the start, you’re out 50% of your budget for venue and food, so keeping your other vendor costs on budget is very important. On the other hand, one unexpected splurge I made was on a really nice hotel room to get ready in with my bridesmaids. It was expensive but totally worth it for all of the pictures taken there.
Is there anything else that helps tell the story of the day? Max and I met in college but really started our lives together in New York. Getting married here was so important to us because it was a reflection of who we are and all that we love about the city. We left our wedding feeling loved, happy, and most of all very, very lucky to be surrounded by so many great people celebrating our relationship in our favorite place in the whole world. It was a pretty magical feeling.
Today’s wedding from Anushé Low takes us to a small village outside Bath, England. Not only is it the most charming venue, but there are so many details to love, starting with the bride’s gorgeous David Fielden dress…
The couple’s favorite part of the day? “Driving away from the church in a Porsche 356SC, lent to us by Ferdy’s dad. It was the first moment we had together as a married couple, and we were both so exhilarated! Knowing all the fun that was to come later in the day, and having just a few minutes of time to take in the overwhelming service and the sheer joy of seeing all our family and friends around us was unforgettable.”
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Why did you choose this location for your wedding? Choosing the location for our wedding was easy. When we first met, Izzy’s family lived in the beautiful historic village of Norton St. Philip, which is just a few miles outside Bath (Somerset, UK). We spent much of our first summer together here, and its beauty and peace made it a perfect choice for our wedding ceremony. The village has a beautiful 13th-century church (St. Philip and St. James) and a 14th-century pub called The George Inn (it claims to be Britain’s oldest tavern) where all our friends and family gathered on the eve of the wedding for celebratory drinks. Our reception was held in nearby Wick Farm, a former threshing barn.
What inspired you when you were planning your wedding? We were inspired by everything from the natural beauty of rural Somerset with its village life and medieval buildings to the decadence of Paris (where Ferdy proposed), wanders around Versailles, the scent of pink roses and peonies and the elegance of a Laduree macaron tower! Add to this our desire to reflect our happy childhoods and close families, and our wish to make sure the day was inclusive and great fun for all our friends and family.
Did you include any traditions in your wedding? Yes, including spending the eve of the wedding apart, having a Church of England wedding service, traditional attire for the whole wedding party and a special table at the wedding breakfast for the married couple and their nearest and dearest. We had some fantastic speeches, a first dance and of course stuck to the tradition of the bride wearing “something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue.”
What was the best advice you received as a bride? Make sure you and your groom step aside from the crowd at various intervals over the day and watch your own wedding unfold!
What advice do you have for other brides? Don’t let anyone stress you (especially anyone in a bridal wear store…). However mundane certain elements of the planning feel, enjoy every moment – you really miss the “wedmin” when it’s gone! And remember that things that may seem a big deal to you in the preparation may well go unnoticed by the guests who will simply get the greatest kick possible from seeing you beaming with happiness.
What DIY projects did you take on? In memory of Izzy’s grandma, we used her collection of cut glass vases and had 5 arrangements per table. We bought our flowers from Bristol flower market, the day before the wedding, which was an adventure unto itself! Both our mums, sisters and bridesmaids spent a memorable Friday afternoon arranging the flowers and setting them out on each of the tables. It saved us a lot of money and was a very calming and creative way to spend the afternoon! We were also lucky enough to have a hugely talented illustrator as our maid of honor, a mother of the bride who is a professional jeweler, a few star DJ-ing friends, and the then President of the British Beekeepers Association (Ferdy’s Dad) who provided the beautiful and delicious honey pot wedding favors. Including our network of talented friends in the day made it supremely inclusive!
How’s this for a fun way to start your Tuesday… BHLDN is giving one lucky Snippet & Ink reader a $500 gift card! Plus, Snippet & Ink has an exclusive sneak preview of BHLDN‘s newest wedding gowns! I decided to play a little virtual dress-up and pair them with some of my favorite BHLDN baubles…
The Fall/Winter collection initially debuted in August, but BHLDN is always introducing inspiring new pieces. I just love the glitzy, vintage-inspired look of some of these gowns… doesn’t Maxine look like she stepped straight out of The Great Gatsby?
BHLDN has something for every budget, from $600 to $3600 (lovely Bette here is $800), and whether your style is romantic, vintage, bohemian, or modern, you’ll be sure to find something you love. Maybe something featuring intricate details or textures? Or maybe a dress like Dakota with clean, elegant lines…
So I bet you’re wondering how you can enter to win the $500 gift card, right? Just visit BHLDN to browse the site and see their newest additions (I know, tough task drooling over BHLDN‘s beautiful wedding goodies), then come back here and leave a comment with a link to your favorite item.
Contest begins Tuesday, October 8, 2013 at 9:30AM PDT, and ends Friday, October 12, 2013 at 11:59PM PDT. Winners will be selected by Snippet & Ink, and notified by email. Please note: winners must live in the United States or Canada (excluding Quebec).