Want something different from the dinner-and-dancing wedding that everyone seems to favor these days? Take a page from Rebecca and Matt’s book: they wanted their wedding to feel like an intimate, relaxed dinner party, and I’d say they pulled it off marvelously. Lovely photos by Gary Ashley.
Says Rebecca: “We had been to the Blue Hill restaurant in the city and were drawn to the idea of a more rustic experience at Stone Barns. We love their mission and the amazing food. The setting is really magical with all of the animals and crops that are housed on the farm. I loved that the Hay Loft felt like a barn but was more refined.”
“I was inspired by images of wild flowers and outdoor events,” Rebecca says. “Luckily my florist was able to translate my words of inspiration into a better reality than I had even pictured.”
What was your favorite moment or part of the day? Matt gave a really beautiful toast to our families and me before dinner. Because our ceremony had been so small, it was really special to hear him say such heartfelt and beautiful words in that setting.
What was the best advice you received as a bride? To just relax and enjoy it and try not to get too caught up in all of the details. Also to stop worrying about the weather.
What advice do you have for other brides? Try to have an event that speaks to who you are as a person: don’t feel like you have to do any one thing because that’s what “people do” or it is traditional. Everyone is coming because they love and support you and want to celebrate with you – they will have a wonderful time regardless.
Do you have any budget tips for other brides? We were lucky because my mom is incredibly organized and did a lot of the legwork on the planning for the wedding so we didn’t have to hire a wedding planner. Other than that, we kept our vendors limited and were lucky that they all worked out so well.
Is there anything else that helps tell the story of the day? Neither Matt nor I were that interested in an overly traditional, formal wedding. We really wanted the event to be intimate and relaxed. We intentionally kept our invite list very small and asked that even our parents’ invites were people that both of us knew. We had only immediate family at the ceremony and decided against bridesmaids or groomsmen. Because of that it felt like a really nice party and gave us the opportunity to celebrate with all of the people that we love, which was our main goal. It helped that the venue and the food were also wonderful.