Okay friends, here it is! I have a hard enough time editing real wedding features when I’m not the bride, so you can imagine how hard it was to narrow down photos from my own wedding. It was also tough trying to write the text for this post – I didn’t want to leave out a single detail! Which is why I’m doing more posts next week, so I can share even more pics and details and stories. First, though, I wanted to give you a “Real Wedding: Kathryn & Ryan” post…

Since I’m from San Francisco, and since it would be my home with Ryan by the time of our wedding, it seemed like the best place to get married – plus we thought it would be a fun city for our out-of-town guests to visit. Because I look at wedding photos all day everyday, I had moments of serious wedding planning confusion, but once we decided on a date (December 4) and venues, the details started to fall into place.

Cavallo Point is a beautiful hotel that overlooks the San Francisco Bay, and it was the perfect place for all of the girls to get ready, as well as for portraits before the ceremony.

The bouquet my godmother made for me was pretty much my dream bouquet. She incorporated all of the things I asked for and that she knows I love: peonies (in December!), lily-of-the-valley, paper whites, dusty miller, gardenia and passion vine. She tied it with two kinds of silver ribbon from Britex.

I’m totally in love with my wedding dress – the pale dove gray was so perfect for a winter wedding, it had just the right amount of sparkle, and I felt like Grace Kelly when I put it on (especially after Jim Avila worked his hair and makeup magic on me!).

For our invitations, I wanted a look that was classic and elegant, as well as playful – it was so much fun working with Jill at PS Paper, and seeing my ideas come to life.

The Swedenborgian Church is such a perfect venue for a winter wedding – it’s intimate and cozy, all dark wood and candlelight. And it’s one of those magical little places that you’d probably drive right past if you didn’t know it was there. Also, how cute are those valet guys out front with their white dinner jackets? And I don’t even need to ask how adorable our flower girl is…

So many brides have told me that the ceremony was their favorite part of the day, and I totally know why. Aside from the obvious (the marrying my best friend part), every moment I could feel the love of our friends and family like a hug. It was also wonderful to have one of our dearest friends officiate – she did such an amazing job, and gave us the most wonderful gift of a beautiful and personal address. And as though it wasn’t all perfect enough, Jenna Lam (one of our incredible wedding planners) surprised us with a boys’ choir singing Christmas carols as we walked out of the church!

One of the few details that I was certain I wanted from the get-go was button escort cards – I’ve loved this idea ever since I saw it in an issue of Martha Stewart Weddings, and together with calligrapher Maybelle Imasa-Stukuls, Jill from PS Paper made it happen. And our guests loved them!

The Presidio Social Club is just a short drive from the church, it happens to be one of our favorite restaurants in the city, and was all around a great pick for our reception. It has a retro vibe, delicious food, and since it’s in the Presidio, it feels very “San Francisco.” When guests arrived, they were greeted with Poinsettia cocktails served in retro champagne coupes, which I thought were pretty festive.

Is it weird that one of my favorite details from our wedding was the napkins? Kathleen Deery had them custom made for our wedding, and somehow those little pom-poms added so much to the tables! They also fit so perfectly with the elegantly playful mood that we hoped to create for the party. Oh, and a few of you asked about my crystal hair piece yesterday – it was a gift from the wonderful Jennifer Behr.

At the bottom of their menus, guests were reminded to save room for dessert: Noci Gelato brought their party bike (in lieu of a groom’s cake, since my groom is an ice cream man), waiters passed around beignets filled with chocolate, and Perfect Endings created a gorgeous (and delicious!) cake and dessert buffet for us.

This is probably one of my favorite photos from our entire wedding – how cute are these kids! They probably enjoyed the photo booth more than anyone, except maybe for all the grown ups. The booth printed duplicate copies of everything, so our guests could leave one in an album for us along with a note. It was so much fun looking through the album/guest book later that night.

The dessert buffet included some of our favorite flavors, including seasonal treats like eggnog (with donuts), gingerbread cookies and peppermint bark.

My mom (I love you mom!) made more than 100 Christmas crackers, which our guests had fun with – we have some great pics of people popping them open and wearing the paper crowns. My godmother found the cute silver holly that decorated them.

Whoever says wedding cake is overrated has never tasted one from Perfect Endings – not only was our cake beautiful, decorated with sugar cyclamen to match the centerpieces, but it’s quite possibly the best cake I’ve ever eaten. Two tiers of lemon sponge cake with lemon curd and two tiers of their Mahogany cake (chocolate layer cake with chocolate hazelnut truffle cream). I’m drooling just thinking about it…

I truly loved every part of our wedding, but next to the ceremony, I’d say our first dance was a favorite moment. Crystal Monee Hall has such an incredible voice, and having her sing You’re All I Need to Get By (our song!) was such a treat.

Oh my goodness – there is so much more I want to share with you! Tomorrow I thought I’d share some of the planning process, and then next week I’ll go more in-depth about the details and moments and stories and vendors. We were so lucky to have friends and family there to celebrate with us, and to have some of the most amazing wedding vendors anyone could hope for. I can honestly say that our wedding was one of the most wonderful and special days I’ve ever experienced, and I know Ryan would say the same thing – thank you for letting me revisit it here by sharing it with you!



Planning, coordination: Laurie Arons Boutique Events, directed by Jenna Lam

Photography: Elizabeth Messina

Videography: Sandbox Love

Getting ready, portraits: Cavallo Point in Sausalito, California
Ceremony: The Swedenborgian Church of San Francisco
Reception: Presidio Social Club in San Francisco

My attire
Dress: Angel Sanchez purchased at Jin Wang
Veil: purchased at Jin Wang
Hair clip: Jennifer Behr
White bridal shoes: Kate Spade
Sparkly flats: Steve Madden

Hair and makeup: Jim Avila and Darlene Carlson (415-381-5609)

Wedding bands: Stephan-Hill

Ryan’s attire
Suit, shirt, tie: Ralph Lauren
Shoes: Bally purchased at Saks Fifth Avenue
Suspenders: Brooks Brothers

Other attire
Flower girl, Junior bridesmaid dresses: Lula Kate purchased at Bella Bridesmaid
Flower girl, Junior bridesmaid shoes: Payless
Maid of Honor dresses: Amsale purchased at Bella Bridesmaid
Ring bearer suit: Janie & Jack
Ring bearer bow tie: BuyYourTies.com

Invitation suite, save-the-dates: PS Paper
Letterpress: Alan Hillesheim
Envelope calligraphy: Betsy Dunlap
Vintage stamps: The Paper Nickel
Day-of details (menus, buttons, coasters, etc.): PS Paper
Day-of calligraphy: Maybelle Imasa-Stukuls

Personal flowers: Michaele Thunen
Ceremony, reception flowers: Kathleen Deery Design
Tent, Chiavari chairs: Classic Party Rentals
Linens: LaTavola Linen
Lounge furniture: Kathleen Deery Design

Dinner: Presidio Social Club
Cake: Perfect Endings
Dessert buffet: Perfect Endings
Dessert buffet details: PS Paper
Gelato bike: Noci Gelato

String trio: Lawrence Strings
Boys’ choir: Golden Gate Boys’ Choir and Bell Ringers
Band: Jazz Mafia
Vocals: Crystal Monee Hall
Professional sound: Delicate Productions

Photo booth: Magnolia Photo Booth
Custom booth curtain, guest book: PS Paper

Valet: Soiree Valet
Shuttle: Bauer’s Transportation
Vintage cab: Marin Checker Taxi, 415-789-5356


See all of my posts about our wedding right here!


Bauer’s Transportation, Bella Bridesmaid, Classic Party Rentals, Kathleen Deery Design, Kiss the Groom, Laurie Arons Special Events, Lawrence Strings, Magnolia Photo Booth, Noci Gelato, The Paper Nickel, Perfect Endings, PS Paper, Sandbox Love and Soiree Valet are sponsors of Snippet & Ink. Thank you to Betsy Dunlap for the wedding gift of envelope calligraphy, to Cavallo Point for extending the media room rate for our stay, and to Jennifer Behr for the gift of the beautiful crystal head piece.

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  1. sarah piper

    This is so beautiful and sweet. I think you really hit the nail with “classic” but still “playful,” which I really admire! And you had an army of awesome vendors! Besides the church, I think the champagne coupes are my favorite detail :)

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  2. Elizabeth

    I am one of those readers who has been waiting in excitement to hear and see the pictures from your wedding. You are such a beautiful, beautiful bride (looove the dress!!!!), the photography is amazing, and there is so much love in these pictures. Beautiful stationery too, and all the lovely details, I can’t choose a favourite… you guys did a great job!

    Thank you so, so much for sharing your beautiful day with us!

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  3. Kimberly

    BEAUTIFUL! I love your amazing details! I could list them all, but I’d be here all day. I am swooning over your big day! Well done!

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  4. London Lisa

    Your wedding is beautiful and lovely. Congratulations and many blessing and years filled with love to you and your husband. xoxo

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  5. Julie

    Kathryn: I discovered your blog not long after I got engaged last winter and have looked at it almost every morning since. I was so excited to see the photos of your wedding, and they turned out beautiful! You can tell how hard you worked on all of the details. I love them all!(Especially those napkins!) Thanks for sharing!

    P.S. Your dress is gorgeous and it was the perfect choice!

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  6. Kate in England

    I don’t think I’ve ever commented before, but I’ve been reading your beautiful blog for ages and have been waiting patiently for your wedding. It’s all so gorgeous and classy and elegant – really stunning (as are you). And the ice-cream bike is such a lovely touch.

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  7. E

    A dove gray dress? *Swoon* :) My dress makes me feel like Grace Kelly too.
    Thank you for sharing your wedding with us. You’re beautiful!

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  8. Brindey

    I have my nose pressed to my screen, like a kid looking at toys through a storefront window.
    You look gorgeous, and your wedding is fantastic. Congratulations!

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  9. shannon

    absolutely beautiful. i have been waiting for months to see, and it’s too bad i have to work today, because i could spend all day wooing over these details…especially the paper, oh the paper! please tell us you will be using the photo booth curtain in your home!

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  10. Caroline C

    Absolutely beautiful wedding! I always had a soft spot for winter weddings too…
    Where is your engagement ring from? I fell in love with it yesterday in your wedding video (which was amazing too).
    Thanks for sharing!

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  11. Caroline C

    Absolutely beautiful! I always had a soft spot for winter weddings…
    Where is your engagement ring from? I fell in love with it yesterday in your wedding video (which was amazing too).
    Thanks for sharing!

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  12. sarah g

    really and truly unbelievable! i am just blown away with beauty!

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  13. nicole b.

    Oh my goodness. You were the most beautiful bride EVER! What an incredible wedding. You and your family and your vendors did an amazing job! Congrats! Wow wow wow! I loved all of your details and notes, too. This was such a pleasure to read… and drool over! Congrats again! xo.

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  14. Megan

    Sweet Jesus, I LOVE that dress. I saw it on TV a year ago and have been in love. My question is – how do you get that dress when there is no wedding planned for a few years? I want THAT exact dress – don’t care if it’s ‘out of season.’ Kathryn, you look gorgeous!!! I loved the video you posted yesterday – I cried at work.. dammit!! :) Absolutely stunning wedding – wouldn’t expect anything less from you! LOVE S&I – first wedding blog I ever looked at years ago and it’s still my fave! :)

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  15. Kristen

    WOW! I can’t stop looking at these. Truly incredible. So beautiful. Congrats!

    (I’m scrolling back to the top….for the 4th time.)

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  16. Mrs SE

    Perfect- down to every last detail. Everything was so beautiful and well thought out, just as we all knew it would be. You were such a radiant and beautiful bride– the Christmas choir gave me tears! How wonderful!

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  17. Aileen@Love&Lavender

    Oh my goodness your wedding was so beautiful! And you were gorgeous–so classic looking.

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  18. chelsea

    As far as the details of your wedding, it’s like your whole blog came to life. It’s just so you. Every detail is just stunning but nothing feels over the top. You two are the most gorgeous couple too. It just looks like you had so much fun. What a special day.

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  19. S

    Wow! What a gorgeous event. I can’t imagine how much pressure you must have felt to pull off an amazing wedding. But it reads so beautifully in the photos and it doesn’t seem contrived, but rather, it appears that you and your husband just allowed yourselves to shine through in the details. My husband and I also got married in winter (January 1, 2010) and I think there is something so magical about a wedding during that time of the year. You did a phenomenal job planning the details, looking beautiful and projecting what must have been a deep sense of calm and love in the photos. Bravo!

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  20. Braedon

    Absolutely gorgeous. You looked stunning and your wedding was beautiful. Been dying to see these. Congrats.

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  21. Meryl

    I’ve been a long time reader, but I’m not a big commenter (in fact this is my first comment, oops)! Just wanted to take the opportunity to congratulate you. Your wedding is simply lovely. Thanks for sharing!

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  22. Leila| Be Inspired PR

    Kathryn, You are the most gorgeous bride I’ve ever seen! Love you! -Leila

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  23. Jenn F

    Congrats on your BEAUTIFUL wedding, I too got married on December 4, 2010 and I’m just now in the process of updating my blog with all my wedding photos! Congrats again! :)

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  24. Gia

    Beauteous!! Congrats to both of you!

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  25. Anna

    I just love how well the wedding stationary corresponded with the rest of the event – fabulous!

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  26. Koru Kate

    As a fellow winter Bride, I’m loving every last detail! It’s perfection. Every photo that involves your veil is absolutely breathtaking!!

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  27. Natalie

    Oh my goodness, lovely! One question… how did you do the (perfect) red border on the envelopes? I would love to do this!

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  28. lydia {ever ours}

    i’m sure everyone’s said it all. but i’ll repeat again, kathryn, your wedding was absolutely stunning. all the details down to the minute ones are just all amazing. the photography of course is gorgeous and i can’t wait to read more!

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  29. Kae

    kathryn! My little heart was pitter-pattering uncontrollably while looking through your photos. So simple and so so gorgeous. Thank you so much for sharing!

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  30. Darci

    Absolutely gorgeous, Kathryn! All the best to you and Ryan

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  31. Megan Clouse

    Oh Elizabeth… I covet your work! (I know, thou shall not covet, but I do)
    The image of the 3 kids posed outdoors and the couple kissing during the reception are so beautiful I almost want to order prints and have them framed in my home. I’ll just pretend I actually know them. :)

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  32. Lisa

    Oh Kathryn. You did such a good job.

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  33. Inessa Zherebnenko

    everything is absolutely perfect and beautiful for a beautiful couple

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  34. Amanda Bevington

    Quite honestly Kathryn…Perfect! The images made me feel like I was there (such a talented photographer : ) & incredible attention to the unique details, but mostly, you both look SO happy! Such a joyful day! You are GORGEOUS & Congratulations again to you both! You deserve a lifetime+ of happiness!!! All the best to you, a Beautiful-Beautiful-Beautiful couple! xo, A

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  36. cristin @ simplified bee

    What a gorgeous wedding. I have attend a wedding ceremony at that church. It is lovely and the perfect size. I am also loving all the little, special details of your special day. Just beautiful.


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  37. Catherine

    Love, love, love your gown! The color, the sparkle, the design…and you looked sensational in it – just as timeless & elegant as Grace herself :) Plus, you had gelato AND beignets at your reception?! AWESOME.

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  38. jacin {lovely little details}

    goosebumps, again :)

    PS – you will be the Blogger {Unveiled} on Friday, perfect timing, I think :)

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  39. kelsey {las vegas wedding photographer}

    lovely! I adore that photo booth as well! congrats to you guys!

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  40. Kate


    Honestly, this is one of the most beautiful/perfect weddings I’ve ever seen. I always knew you had great taste, but this totally blows me away. Your gown, your invitations, the venue…wow! Thank you so much for sharing. My vow renewal plans might have just gotten a new color scheme. Congratulations!

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  41. Kelly S

    Hair piece!! Would you want to sell this?? I am in love but unfortunately it’s out of my price range? BEAUTIFUL beautiful wedding. Gorgeous.

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  42. Shana

    I feel like a wedding stalker! lol I have been waiting – impatiently! – to see your wedding photos and hear all the details of your wedding ever since you announced your engagement, and I couldn’t be more excited! Everything turned out so beautiful! I love you and your blog so much! I’ve been a reader of S&I for a long time now, and I feel like I know you – I wish you all the happiness in the world!

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  43. Lacey @ Lacey Wagner Events

    Really well done, but I wouldn’t expect anything less! So happy for you.

    One of my favorite things is that wedding cake, soooo pretty!

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  44. Jesse

    Kathryn, these photos are gorgeous. Elizabeth did an amazing job in capturing the simple elegance of your wedding day. What wonderful photographer she is! It was truly a pleasure working along side her.

    PS. LOVE the shot of Ryan in the chuch hallway! What a great moment to have captured.

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  45. Plum Pretty Sugar Loungerie

    So many congratulations! Absolutely stunning and so very tailored in every way.



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  46. Martine Louise

    “Wow” and “Oh my goodness!” you’re wedding makes me want to get married again just to have a winter wedding! Love the color palette – the red, grey and white are sophisticated but fun and ties in great with the venue. Good choice on a dove grey dress! My favorite deco details are the buttons, the invitations (love the stamps & postcard!) and I adore the napkins too! ahhhh all so nice. I just can’t give up your blog. I tried (post wedding) and failed miserably – so i’m just going to give into it.

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  47. Jo Ann

    A million congratulations and wonderful wishes to you both! Kathryn, I’ve never seen a photo of you before…you are stunning. And your Groom is amazingly handsome. I’m so happy for you both. Beautiful photographs of course…but most importantly, you can just feel all the love! All my best, Jo Ann

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  48. Alex Wakeman

    Another Delta love story come to life… You and Ryan are so beautiful. Congrats again!! I am getting married this summer (no Delta love story for me though) and have been reading your blog to help get inspired!

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  49. Megan

    Stunning. Everything looks perfect. Congrats.

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  50. KC

    Beautiful! Great pictures that really capture the details and feel. A great party celebrating your love.

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  51. didi

    Gorgeous Kathryn! esp. love the beautiful bouquet and what a breathtaking bride you are! congrats on your winter nuptials.

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  52. shannon

    simply one of the most romantic, gorgeous weddings I’ve had a peak at! Love the creativity hiding at every turn.
    Enjoy the bliss of being a newly wed!

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  53. Alex

    Amazing/gorgeous/personal!! Congrats, so well done!!

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  54. johanna

    so beautiful – love all the details. you two look very much in <3. thank you for sharing.

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  55. Alison

    I have the chills. And I’m a little teary (maybe it’s the pregnancy hormones). I’m just so happy for you! What a beautiful day. I’m so glad you shared it with us and I cannot wait for more!! xo

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  56. Kate

    I’m loving your wedding posts! You look absolutely stunning. Congrats! You guys make a beautiful couple.

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  57. Lucy Dylan Weddings

    Your wedding is to die for! It came together so well, congratulations!

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  58. Helen

    Congratulations, absolutely stunning!

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  59. Rupali Grady

    WOW! WOW! I didn’t think that pictures and video would be able to accurately illustrate this amazing day and your beautiful love story. I was wrong! I’m taken back to that perfect, special weekend with every picture. We love you and look forward to being a part of your journey…your new Sis!

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  60. alyson

    Kathryn!! your wedding was a dream. and you look stunning!

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  61. Katie Kingman

    Kathryn… it is an absolute delight to follow your blog and the last few posts about your wedding have made me cry, laugh, love my husband EVEN more, and wish nothing but pure happiness for you and Ryan! Congratulations! xo

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  62. Katherynn

    I’ve always known that you had style, but wow! What a BEAUTIFUL bride, and what a BEAUTIFUL wedding!! I can’t wait to see more!!

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  63. Emily

    I absolutely love your dress, veil and hairclip! They’re beautiful and just different enough to be really special. But the boy’s choir singing carols is my very favorite part of all. What a magical touch!

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  64. Calder Clark

    Desperately lovely, delicate, and so essentially you! I love it and have got to see more. Keep ’em coming!!! Big hugs.

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  65. Daphna

    Your wedding was absolutely stunning. Kudos to you for doing such an extraordinary job and thank you for sharing!

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  66. jenny j

    from one winter 2011 bride to another…gorgeous wedding! it’s SO lovely to see other winter affairs. crossing my fingers we may get featured :) congratulations!

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  67. pasadena

    So beautiful! Congrats!

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  68. Tamea Burd Photography

    What a beautiful wedding! These photos are just lovely. Especially love the shots of the children… So cute!

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  69. Joanna

    Your wedding is just perfect, Kathryn. I’m doing buttons for my escort cards as well. May I ask what size buttons you made? They look perfect!

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  70. Carrie

    Oh, so dreamy and perfect! Your dress/veil/hair looks AMAZING. You incorporated so many thoughtful details–well done!

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  71. tina

    Oh, Kathryn! You’re stunning! I’ve never seen that dress on a “real bride.” You’re even more beautiful than the models. Everything is great. Love the red! Congratulations to you and your mister.

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  72. Daniella

    such a beautiful wedding, I wish you a long and happy marriage x

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  73. kellyadams photography

    I like the whole wedding concept, such a classic photography.

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  74. San Francisco Wedding Photographer

    Such a masterpiece by Elizabeth Messina, Thanks for sharing this beautiful wedding,


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