Snapshot of a Marriage | David & Tina, Married 23 Years

With all of our focus on how to make your wedding special, we thought it was time to highlight some ways to make your marriage awesome, too. Introducing “Snapshot of a Marriage,” a new series from contributor Emily Westbrooks, who interviews couples on some of their secrets for a strong and successful marriage. 
On their wedding day twenty-three years ago, Tina and David were given a black lab that they named Chowder. A puppy might not always be a welcome wedding present, but for Tina and David it certainly was. In the early years of their marriage (the second marriage for both of them), when they finished work for the day, the first thing Tina and David would do is take Chowder for a walk. Together. No preparing dinner, no dishes, no television. All of that could wait. Instead, they spent an hour connecting, chatting, catching up on the day. They credit that routine with helping them communicate in the first years of their marriage.

Sitting in their living room, Tina offered this piece of advice to those just starting out: “We have to remember we’re all just ordinary people,” she said. “It’s hard not to expect your spouse to be extraordinary, and when they aren’t, it can be disappointing. The truth is, we all just can’t be our best all the time. Being in a marriage means knowing that you still love the person even when they’re not their very best, and knowing that they love you when you’re not your very best.”
Photo by Lauren Bodwell.

15 comments

  • Honestly, I think this is my absolute favorite post, of anything Snippet and Ink has done, ever. Thank you!

  • Jenna Coughlan says:

    Kathryn – this is so, so nice to read, thank you! What a novel series and excellent addition to Snippet and Ink!

  • what a great series to add to snippet… brought tears to my eyes. my husband and i walk ellie, our rescue-pup each night, and i couldn’t be more thankful for her and the time we get to spend together as a family. those little things really do matter most.

  • Hannah says:

    This is such a wonderful feature to add! It’s lovely to read about and see people who’s love has stood the test of time.

  • This is lovely! I really love the thought of you highlighting marriage advice from those who have stood the test of time. I really must send in some of my advice as my husband and I just celebrated our 36th. We celebrated with a fun photo shoot and we renewed our vows on our 30th. In this day of technology, it seems everything posted is of pure bliss. Marriage is not always, so this is a breath of fresh air!

  • LOVE this idea for a series! A unique addition to the online wedding/marriage community. Excited to read more! Agree with Pam’s comment, this is a true breath of fresh air!

  • Love these words of wisdom. Plus, the idea of taking the time for each other by walking the dog each night before going on to the routines of the evening is such a great idea. Sounds like a nice way to unwind and take some time for each other before the stress of life settles back in for the night.

  • So inspiring! My hubby and I are going through a lot right now, but we’re working it out. It’s nice to see posts like this when you need it most. Thanks.

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