With all of our focus on how to make your wedding special, we thought it was time to highlight some ways to make your marriage awesome, too. Introducing “Snapshot of a Marriage,” a new series from contributor Emily Westbrooks, who interviews couples on some of their secrets for a strong and successful marriage.
On their wedding day twenty-three years ago, Tina and David were given a black lab that they named Chowder. A puppy might not always be a welcome wedding present, but for Tina and David it certainly was. In the early years of their marriage (the second marriage for both of them), when they finished work for the day, the first thing Tina and David would do is take Chowder for a walk. Together. No preparing dinner, no dishes, no television. All of that could wait. Instead, they spent an hour connecting, chatting, catching up on the day. They credit that routine with helping them communicate in the first years of their marriage.
Sitting in their living room, Tina offered this piece of advice to those just starting out: “We have to remember we’re all just ordinary people,” she said. “It’s hard not to expect your spouse to be extraordinary, and when they aren’t, it can be disappointing. The truth is, we all just can’t be our best all the time. Being in a marriage means knowing that you still love the person even when they’re not their very best, and knowing that they love you when you’re not your very best.”
Photo by Lauren Bodwell.