Weddings and Blogs

Happy Monday morning! I apologize that I don’t have an inspiration board to share with you today – I haven’t been feeling super inspired by pretty pictures for the past couple of weeks, so I keep starting inspiration boards and then getting bored with them. Inspiration boreds. (Sorry, sorry!)

{Not that it has anything to do with this post, but who doesn’t love kisses and puppies?}

Part of it might be that my honey and I are in the midst of our own wedding planning (Yes! We’ve set a date and picked a place and everything! Well, not everything, but you know – we’re on our way.), so that’s sort of dominating the wedding part of my brain, which is interesting when I sit down to create a blog post, because it’s not all pretty details and inspired ideas. It’s the budget and guest list and vendor decisions and what I guess you could call the bones of a wedding. It’s trying to hear 8 million opinions graciously and without heading straight to Crazytown (I get about a C-minus in that area; hoping to bring it up to at least a B). And I’m just not so sure about putting all of that on Snippet & Ink.

Thinking about my own wedding can make blogging a little tricky, and being a wedding blogger has shaped my planning process. In lots of ways it’s been amazing (I’ve made some really wonderful friends who have been such incredible resources and so supportive) and in other ways it’s been overwhelming (I have so many ideas, yet nothing seems original because every clever wedding idea anyone ever had has been posted on a blog somewhere and then re-blogged a hundred times over). There’s also this thing where everyone seems to think that because I blog about weddings, I should know exactly what I want my wedding to be. (People. I’ve been engaged since last May. Between then and August we changed the date twice, at three different venues, in two different states. And then we put things on hold. Does that sound like a person who knows exactly what she wants for her wedding?)

So, that’s kind of where my brain is (at least, one of a few places). I’ll be back with inspiration boards just as soon as possible, but in the meantime, I hope you’ll share some of your thoughts here in the comments – what’s inspiring you, or how’s your planning going, or anything else you feel like chatting about.


  • Shana says:

    Kathryn, I know I don't know you "in real life," but I totally love you. You are my favorite blogger because you are always so open and honest. You wear your heart on your sleeve – which is probably why your inspiration boards are, well, so inspirational. And, kudos to you for not posting what you consider uninspired work. This is further evidence of your dedication to excellence for Snippet and Ink. I'm not engaged yet, but this is the very first site I'll visit (not that I don't already visit daily) when an engagement ring happens on my finger!

  • Sara says:

    Hi Kathryn, I've been reading your blog for around 2 years and love your blog and your boards. As a wedding planner myself, I am constantly looking for new ideas, inspiration, eye candy, new colour combinations, so snippet & ink is one of the blogs I turn to almost daily for my "fix".

    I too am getting married and am too confused, overwhelmed and perhaps too aware of the thousands of options "out there", it has been extremely difficult to pick the venue, the theme, the colors, I have changed my mind ten thousand times and try to keep my ideas to myself so as not to drive my family completely mad!

    Anyway, I am certain that you will find a way to express who you are via your wedding and don't forget that you are in the privileged position to have many amazing vendors at your finger tips!

    Happy Planning, can't wait to see how the wedding turns out!

  • Tracey says:

    Hi Kathryn, I have been reading your blog for just over a year now and I love coming back each morning day after day.

    I take my hat off to you – 416(!) inspiration boards, each one as lovely as the next and unique in its own little way – pulling that off takes talent and you certainly have an eye for the pretty! You deserve a well earned break, take some time out to concentrate on your own wedding – after all you have helped so many others gain inspiration for theirs!

    I too am feeling a little overwhelmed right now (however its not wedding related). I got married last August and since returning from my honeymoon I seem to be juggling everything and never quite getting my work/life balance right! I'm pretty sure I need to take a little time out too, turn off my computer for a few days, read, bake, sit in my garden etc – and let my brain take a rest. I think its good for us all to do that once in a while!

    Wishing you all the best!

  • wesson says:

    Congratulations Kathryn!!! You brighten my life every day from your blog….If you need ANYTHING at all please don't hesitate to ask!!
    Happy planning!!

  • Runrgurl10 says:

    I think it's natural to feel overwhelmed bc there are so many awesome/beautiful/wonderful options out there! Plus, being in the industry, you're more exposed to all these ideas than the typical bride…

    My only advice is to take your time making decisions and trust yourself. You obviously have an incredible eye for things, so no matter what, your wedding is going to be gorgeous and heartfelt and we're all so excited and happy for you, now that the planning is back on! Best of luck!

  • Amanda says:

    Hi Kathryn, truer words have never been spoken. Being a wedding planner and planning a wedding is not an easy thing to do. I feel very inspired and confident in that inspiration when I am doing it for other ppl but don't trust my instinct when it comes to planning for myself.

    As you mentioned, I too had all of these ideas floating around in my head and my brain hurt from trying to do something new, fresh and exciting.
    My business is fairly new and I am still trying to get my name out there so I felt this added pressure that it has to be the most amazing wedding that ever was, so that everyone will want me to be their planner.
    Anyway, I finally beat some sense into myself and gave myself the same advice that I would give to any of the couples who were planning with me – just do what makes you happy, don't worry about everyone else. If you are happy on the day then everyone else will be too.
    My wedding is in 36 days and I am now very excited! Good luck with all your planning and keep posting your inspirations :)

  • Anonymous says:

    This is perfectly natural to feel this way! I have been engaged since last March and after having a big DIY wedding planned here in the states (after we moved to 3 different ones due to jobs) we followed our hearts and decided on a destination wedding that will result in 15 guests. Responses ranged from supportive excitement to hurt disappointment. In the end, you have to do what is best for you as a couple, for your budget and for your sanity!

  • Blush Paperie says:

    I love your honesty and can completely relate. As a stationery designer, I felt a ton of pressure to have the perfect "branding" at my wedding. I must have done a hundred drafts of the look and changed the colors a dozen times.
    Good luck, I know you'll get there! :)

  • Annie says:

    Once again your honesty makes this blog among the best out there. I am certainly guilty of thinking: "professional wedding bloggers must have ALL the answers." It's comforting, somehow, to know I was wrong and that you are just as human and confused by the process as we civilians.

  • Kalyn says:

    I know exactly how you feel! I've been blogging (not nearly at your level!) about my own wedding planning experience. Mainly the stress and hassle of dealing with trying to please everyone and still manage to keep some of my own ideas in there. Lately I've been trying to make mine more fun with inspiration boards like yours! But it's not going well… I'm finding that unfortunately practicality (budget, guest list, etc) always wins out over all the fun stuff!

    If you want to check it out you can…

  • Michelle Elisabeth says:

    I tell my friends that they are the bride, if they want to makes changes, goodness, that's their perogative! I suppose I'm inspired by my own relationship, the places, the food and the thoughts that we've shared- and one day creating a Wedding that celebrates that. Happy planning ?

  • Amanda Nichole says:

    Hi Kathryn! Thanks for wanting to make sure that what you put on here inspires you first! That shows your commitment to excellence and "good product." LOL.

    I just wanted to say, stay encouraged in your own wedding planning, and dont stress out so much if what you do is or isnt orginial. Do what's you and your fiance, no matter if its been done before. What is boils down to, is that most things for weddings HAVE been down before, what is different is the two people getting married and the people you share it with. Make it you! Of course, that nots always easy or straight forward. So many decisions! So little time!

    Love your blog and thanks for your honesty and candor!

  • Dream Wedding Italy says:

    I think its normal to feel that way. Just don't worry about what other people expect from you just because your a wedding blogger, your wedding will be wonderful whatever you do with it. I always tell brides to just go with what they love, and who cares if it's been done before – no wedding is ever going to be a carbon copy of another anyway.

    P.S. I love that puppy pic, I've just been sitting cooing over it for about five minutes!

  • Anonymous says:

    Thanks for your honesty… so REFRESHING! I too am planning a wedding and tend to get so overwelmed looking at all the weddingporn! lol

    I came to realize that the people that I surround myself will make the day special and the other "details" are just a bonus… also that it ISN'T going to be a "perfect day" in the sense that everything will go according to plan, but it will be the "perfect day when I will become my best friends wife :)

    Wishing you the most "perfect day" :)


    "Keep your face to the sunshine, and you cannot see the shadows"
    ~Helen Keller

  • redfrizzz says:

    I've been reading your blog since I got engaged a YEAR AGO, and I still can't narrow down all the ideas and inspiration I get from your blog and the many other wedding blogs out there.
    That said, try to focus on the fact that this is a wedding for you and yours- your partner, your families, and the joining of your communities. It does not have to be witty or impressive, unique or magazine-glossy. It has to be YOU, and it needs to feel like you.
    Since you've set a date and place, you can start to imagine what it will all look like. Start really, super simply. Add things in, and if any of it starts to feel contrived or if you think, "how will my bloggers feel about this," put it aside. Come back to it later.
    Wedding planning is stressful because it involves the taking on of a future- one that everyone wants to participate in. This often leads to people adding what THEY think is necessary, great, and will lead to a 'happy marriage.' While you can incorporate those elements, this is also an opportunity for you and your parter to say what is important to you, and what things you want to hold onto.
    remember you are a purposeful, artistic, detailed person. That doesn't mean that you have to have a lot of details and artistry- because if you can quiet all the noise surrounding yourselves, you can really listen to what you need.

  • Christine Gallagher Photography says:

    oh the pressure! As if planning a wedding isn't crazy enough but the whole world is waiting to see what you pull off. I say elope, lol.

    As a wedding photographer, I felt that stress when I got married in 2006 and the "who's gonna shoot your wedding question, ugh". It was a lovely wedding, featured in Weddings Unveiled in 2007.

    but… here is the kicker. I was married before, in my early 20's. We decided on a whim to get married in Europe while on a 6 week adventure back packing. When we got home, we had a party and it was amazing.

    It was terribly romantic and personal, not exactly a story I get to share with my wedding clients because… well, I don't want to them to run off, I need to pay me mortgage, so hire me please and deal with the stress, ha ha

    Try and enjoy the process, drink lots of wine along the way and know that in the end, all will be "okay".
    Hell, if Martha Stewart went to jail and still came back as the worlds leading housewife, you will be just fine!

    xoxo – Christine

  • Signorina Svizzera says:

    All I can say is, I'm not even engaged (and won't be for a while, since I'm also not even dating right now), but I too am overwhelmed with possibility (I am one of the many un-engaged wedding blog lurkers).
    I find the wedding process totally daunting, even though I love to look at other peoples weddings. It's true that you feel like, "well, even that ONE original thing that I thought I had going for me has already been used, I'm out of ideas!"
    I'd like to say that when I get married I'm just going to skip trying for "original" ideas and just do whatever my fiance and I want. But then again, it's easier to say when you're not engaged and everyone who you come in contact with has an opinion.
    do you read A Practical Wedding? I find her to be extremely calming when it comes to wedding pressures (and from the comments, brides-to-be do too!)
    Good luck (with the inspiration "boreds", the wedding, everything)
    And I love your honesty :)

  • buhdoop says:

    Don't feel pressure to have an amazing blog-tastic wedding because you have a popular wedding blog. You don't have to have an original idea, or an amazingly crafted wedding. Just stay focused on you two and what matters to you. An understated wedding will be just as gorgeous (or more so) than a blogtastic-diy wedding or vice versa.

    Good luck in planning. We have all "been there" with the freaking out.

    A comic to cheer you up:

  • Letty says:

    Just wanted to echo your sentiments regarding feeling like every clever wedding idea has been been posted and then re-blogged a hundred times over! I'm sure we (and all other frustrated brides-to-be) will figure it out eventually! Congrats on booking a venue– you're ahead of me ;)

  • Sanna says:

    I echo what others have already said so eloquently above- take time out and breathe! I can also recommend engrossing yourself in a fun, lowkey craft project and just getting inspired for a single thing for a while. That single-minded in-the-moment experience that diy'ing gives you is both fun and therapeutic. Do it for you or do it for your wedding: sew something, make a bracelet, play with flower arranging. I am currently sewing handbags/magazine bags made of beautifully patterned oilcloth. Great fun- and if they turn out well enough I will use them as present bags at the wedding (I am giving my female friends a vase or two of flowers from the tables at the end of the party).
    Most of all- enjoy yourself, whatever you do!

  • Jessie says:

    I completely understand the over- and underwhelmed feelings. Some days I am so excited about an idea, then the next I do not even have the energy to think about it–let alone execute it. From time to time it seems that all I do is put out little fires here and there.

    And then something wonderful happens. It is usually small, but so wonderful that I remember why I am so happy to be getting married to the love of my life. All the best in your planning–I hope your happy moments exceed your little fires.

  • Cupcake + Sunshine says:

    My only piece of advice about planning/blogging is this: Don't worry that it's been done before. I don't think anyone should be different (i.e. creative) for difference's sake. It should be what you love.

  • Anonymous says:

    I used 2 of your inspiration boards for my wedding, so thank you for that!
    But honestly, it's your wedding, your party, no matter how much or how little you diy for your wedding or how much has been done before on every blog and magazine it's you and and your future husband's personalities that will shine through and be what people remember.

    I know how hard it is to hear those 8 million opinions and to remain polite. But unfortunately people never know when it's really none of their business. If only there was a real life "ignore" button like on FB.

    Hang in there, you'll get through it and I'm sure will have a great time and have amazing memories of the day!

    In the meantime, we can wait and wait for those inspiration boards. We aren't going anywhere. Your well being and happiness are far more important.

  • Karen says:

    My slice of cake is this – plan the wedding that you want that makes you and your husband-to-be happy. This is your day that will be shared by the two of you and those who love you the most. Enjoy the process of wedding planning. It's the only time in your life to plan your own wedding, and it doesn't matter if you know what you want or figure it out as you go, it's the experience that makes the difference. :)

  • Robin says:

    You mean I'm not the only bride-to-be that is feeling overwhelmed? (smile) My fiance and I have changed our minds about location, venue, and date several times since February. And trying to please everyone has been impossible. And the budget issue is SO STRESSFUL and I just asked my fiance today if we could postpone the whole thing just for a little while so that we can take a breather from the whole thing. And it's hard. And I thank you for you being so refreshingly frank about your own wedding planning and it was just what I needed to hear at just the right time. I'M NOT THE ONLY ONE FEELING LIKE THIS!

  • Jana Jaehnig says:

    i feel your pain! i just got engaged this past weekend and now everyone is asking me if i know all the details to the wedding. i guess since i blog about weddings they assume i have it all planned out already! sigh…i hope it gets easier!

  • milkfedpressblog says:

    Hi Kathryn,
    As always, your sincerity rings true for all who read you. I totally understand how overwhelming it must be to plan your wedding day. It's like the wedding world is closing in on your when you're trying to find what's true and organic for you.
    I really wasn't that woman who had been planning her wedding day since she was a little girl. The bones of planning was as complicated as I made it. Of course there was the realities—budget mostly—so we took that and started there. We had a list of priorities and tried to take those on in relationship to the budget, first. Once those areas were checked off the rest was gravy. Sounds romantic, doesn't it? ha ha. But taking the simple tasks/priorities on first helped my anxiety level. Whatever fun ideas/notions we had left were left to us and any creativity we had to create what we needed/wanted.
    I say this because I imagine you are a really creative person and some of those fun details can swim around in your brain, nagging at you, and maybe this is a lot to take on while you're in nuts and bolts/bones mode.
    I don't know if I'm making sense but the bottom line is to trust yourself and your Sweetie. You both obviously have great taste and I think your approach of taking a break to hear what's true and organic for you is a smart one. Whatever you both create (or don't) will be amazing. Love and Sincerity beat "Clever" any day of the week. xo Victoria

  • Kate says:

    I can totally relate to this post! I'm engaged but haven't really begun planning my wedding in earnest, but just looking at blogs and brainstorming about what I want I know it is going to be so difficult to pick a cohesive feel or idea that I want to carry through my wedding. I love so many things, and it's hard to pick something that describes two people. I think there is a lot of pressure to distill the "essence" your relationship into your wedding. How do I even go about that? Plus, there are so many wonderful ideas out there, I'm afraid I won't be able to choose.

    As always, I adore your blog : )

  • Tink says:

    Kathryn, I know exactly where you are coming from. The inspirations for my blog reflect my progress with my wedding plans but increasingly now I find the blog influencing my wedding plan. At first it was just a random seletion of things I likes, now my posts have a real feel to them and direction which I hope carries through to my big day.

  • Sherisa (L'elephant Rose) says:

    I know how you feel. Planning a wedding isn't nearly as fun as reading all these blogs (which I've been doing for so long now). There's a bit of a disconnect I think–we don't think about really how much goes into the end product. We read it and say "oh wow yea" but the daily grind of planning isn't as fun. And there's lots of rearranging too, especially if you're paying for it on your own. But best of luck love!! Whatever you have, will be yours and his and noone elses. Even if you did every great thing you've seen from others, noone will do it with the feeling you have.


  • Janna says:

    we readers love your blog (and your writing) for it's honesty, creativity, grace. But you know what? This can still be a community without you having to take us home with you at night. You don't have to share your details with everyone who asks. Being a blogger doesn't obligate you to live in a fishbowl! Have fun, but remember good boundaries make good relationships!

  • {The Perfect Palette} says:

    I so can relate. Having made hundreds of inspiration boards myself it was incredibly overwhelming for me to # 1 decided on a color palette because my brain is swimming with them #2 decide on the look/feel I was going for {again I'm full of ideas -but committing is the hardest part and # 3 like yourself- I had the pressure of making our wedding stand out as unique since I do have a wedding blog and the expectation is that those who blog about weddings should have amazing weddings themselves! Could I bring one of my inspiration boards to life? Would I be happy with the aesthetics of it all? Would my friends/family/blog readers be impressed? UGH! In the end, I made choices one by one that felt like us! I of course was all about the little details, but I also really focused on the fact that it was a celebration of the decision to spend our lives together. Looking back, I wouldn't change a thing. Sometimes making those first choices are the hardest! But little by little your wedding will materialize and it will be yours to cherish for a lifetime. My advise is to simply enjoy this time! Don't let others opinions bog you down & ultimately make it yours in whatever that means to you two!

  • Elaine says:

    congratulations, Kathryn!! best of luck with all the wedding plans and pls remember to ENJOY yourself! ;)

  • Kaylen says:

    My one year wedding anniversary is coming up and I still check your blog daily. It's the only wedding blog I "kept" post wedding because I just couldn't let the eye candy go.

    As far as your own wedding ideas and inspirations, I can totally relate to how hard it must be to narrow things down. My friends that didn't read wedding blogs or obsess over ideas like I did had the easiest wedding planning processes. They saw something they liked, picked it, paid for it, done. I, on the other hand, was aware of all the amazing yet endless options and it actually made the decisions that much harder. It must be 10 fold for you. In the end, our wedding included ideas from all over the web that I adapted and made my own and when all brought together felt unique and new. Good luck with planning. Even for us die hard wedding lovers it gets un-fun sometimes, but it will come back to you. Best wishes and thanks for everything you share with us!

  • AB says:

    you rock… I am realizing it is more about celebrating our beautiful and unique relationship than being a trendsetter and impressing my guests (who love me whether or not I have an ice cream machine or wear a fake mustache in my photos.)

  • Sharon says:

    I always believe such decisions need to keep evolving through various iterations down some different paths before they feel right. You sound like someone who will know when you're there, don't rush yourself, this is too important …

  • mary says:

    I did the same exact thing – except it was three different states…. Hang in there! :)

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