Melissa and Jacob are San Francisco-based artists who came together to craft a wedding that would reflect their colorful, creative sensibilities. From the bride’s spectacular bouquet to the quirky, layered centerpieces, this wedding will enchant anyone who collects antique cloches or adores a healthy dose of whimsy.
“I felt really lucky about all the vendors we chose. They all were open to collaboration, and I felt like I can call them all friends. It is amazing to find people who are good at their craft, so we did our best to simply let them shine!”
Did you wear something old, new, borrowed and blue? I chose to wear vintage jewelry, including a brooch at the waist of my gown as my something old, and a ring made my a friend was my something new. Something borrowed was a bracelet and a wrap a friend with impeccable taste lent me, and the best was my something blue – my mom found some embroidery thread that had belonged to my great aunt and cross-stitched forget me nots on a small piece of cloth. She was very dear to me, so I pinned it inside the bodice of my dress to keep her close.
Did you include any DIY details? My husband made several things for the wedding, including our chalkboard sign and beautiful wooden serving platters etched with our wedding logo. I incorporated my artwork in the stationary and included hand-cut paper details. Being able to make our art a part of the wedding made people say that it really felt like “us”.
What was the best advice you received as a bride? To take in the moment and don’t sweat the small stuff. This is the only time all of these fabulous, cherished people will all be in one room, so enjoy it as much as possible.
What advice do you have for other couples in the midst of planning a wedding? Don’t forget that you’re a team! It was fun that my husband and I both contributed to the wedding. I also recommend hiring a wedding planner, at least for the month of the day. Having someone we trusted and who knew the drill was key to us feeling relaxed and comfortable on our wedding day.
Do you have any budget tips for other brides? Start the budgeting process by deciding what things you want to spend money on and which things you can let go.
How did you go about planning your wedding? My first goal was to look for inspiration – Jacob and I are both artists, so naturally we focused on the visual aspects. When it came to the details and event organization, we had help – I felt that hiring people who were good at their craft was the key to allowing us to have fun and be present on the day. We also had some of our friends actually participate in parts of the ceremony, so a celebration of their talents became part of ours.
“Jacob and I met and fell in love in San Francisco. Since I grew up in Texas and he’s from Washington state, we thought that having our family and friends come and celebrate here was particularly fitting. Jacob is a woodworker, and once we saw the Swedenborgian Church, we knew it was perfect.”
Your ceremony in three words. Relaxed, Natural, Warm.
Who officiated your ceremony? We had our friend Ian officiate the ceremony. I grew up with Ian, and he is one of my closest friends, so having him be a part of the day was really special. Our wedding was as much about our love as bringing all of our friends together.
What was your ceremony music? We had a talented musician friend play acoustic guitar. He played “January Rain” by David Grey for my entrance, which is one of my favorite songs, and remind us of New England in the fall.
What was your favorite thing about your wedding ceremony? The whole church was filled with warmth. From the fire place and candles, to the large group of family and friends that surrounded us with love. The room itself is small, which made it cozy and perfect.
“We wanted our reception to feel like a party at our home – if our home was a vintage greenhouse filled with apothecary details. My husband and his friends installed café lights in the space, and we served dinner family style on bare wood tables.”
Why did you choose this location for your reception? The Palm room at the San Francisco Film Centre is a beautiful blank slate. There are large windows, hardwood floors and clean white walls. I felt confident we could so much with the space, and walking in to the reception was a moment I’ll never forget. Seeing all the hard work come to life with our family and friends was really overwhelming and special.
What inspired you when you were planning your wedding? My husband and I are both creative, so we wanted to incorporate our crafts and interests into the day.We both wanted an outdoorsy/Midsummer Night’s Dream feel, so I looked at gardening websites and took lots of afternoon walks through Golden Gate Park.
Tell us about your wedding menu. We served barbecue from Smoke Berkeley. The chef, Tina, brings Texas roots and traditional French cooking techniques to her food, and all of those flavors came together in our amazing feast. Serving the meal family style made the evening so laid back, as if we were in our living room.
What kind of cake did you serve? We served a small cake, so that I could use the cake topper I had from my grandparents wedding, as well as award-winning pies from Smoke Berkeley and macarons from Miette.
“Dancing with my dad was one of my favorite parts of the night. My dad has always loved the Beach Boys and I grew up bopping along to all of their music. When I had to pick a song for us to dance to, I knew instantly that ‘Little Surfer Girl‘ was the one.”
Please tell us about any other special details or moments from your reception. Our music helped make the evening really special. I grew up with “oldies” and I feel like that music spans the generations to appeal to everyone. Our RSVP card included a line for musical requests, so everyone heard songs they loved, and our DJ had a killer collection of vinyl that easily filled in the gaps.
Did you throw an after party? Our after party was held at the Presidio Bowling Alley, and the majority of our guests came. It was a riot to see everyone bowling in their fancy clothes, and I loved spending a few more hours in my dress!